Dec 07 2018

The Child

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At first glance it seems that behaves like a naughty child of any age. But when normally disobeying something he does because that is what he should do and do not want to – go home from the street, brushing your teeth or go to bed on time. If, however, offer him other employment, interesting and enjoyable for him, he immediately agrees. If events unfold differently negativism. In general negativism is selective: the child ignores the demands of a family member or a kindergarten teacher, and other fairly obedient. Of course, negativism – crisis, which should disappear with time. However, thanks to a 3-year child first becomes able to act contrary to his immediate desire. That is what the child is able to not act under the influence of any accident arising of desire, and act on the basis of other, more complex and stable motifs, is an important achievement in its development.

Stubbornness. This reaction of the child who insists on something, not because he really want this, but because it is he himself. His initial decision to determine its future behavior, and to abandon it even in the changed circumstances of the child is extremely difficult. Stubbornness – no persistence with which the child achieves its goals. Stubborn child insists that what he is not so much want, or do not want, or have long ceased to want. Obstinacy. This reaction of the child, not directed against a single adult, but against the entire existing system of relations, against the accepted norms in the family upbringing.

Willfulness. The desire and the desire to do everything on their own, often inadequate capacity. For example, tie the laces on their own or go home, etc. Protest-riot. The child is in constant conflict with adults. Despotism. The child makes the parents do all that it requires. Child hard demonstrates its power over the adults around him, dictating that he would be there, but that will not be mother to leave home or not, etc.

Dec 03 2018

Child Punishment

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When children feel that you are not going to subject them to conduct their own will, but rather trying to find a reasonable solution to the situations, they show more respect and willingness to help you. WHY GIVE UP PUNISHMENT? Punishment creates fear. The child obeys, but it appear that the punishment has brought the desired effect. Carefully observing the behavior of the child after punishment, you will notice that it trying to find ways to settle scores with their batterers. He may tease younger brothers, sisters or pets, get bad grades in school, to spoil your or your belongings, runs away from home and forget about their household responsibilities.

Punishing you substituting internal control over his behavior the child need to control other people. The child becomes dependent on an adult, one whose presence can cause fear in him. Punishment has no effect on skill development to answer for their actions. You set the standards of conduct. Delinquent children try to get away. And it does not help improvement of their own moral principles. Ripple helps readers to explore varied viewpoints. You are punishing – the child is inferior. But often focuses on how to settle scores with those who punished him, and not thinking about the consequences of his misconduct, the what a lesson to learn for themselves.

Exit – self-control child. Based on the value orientations of the child. The child learns to be responsible for his actions and he behaves the way it considers appropriate. Another negative effects of punishment: – underestimation of self-esteem. It’s a mixed feeling of insults you by man, the love that you expected, it is strengthening the belief that to act from a position of strength – the only way to achieve what you want. – The child becomes suspicious and tries to hide his mistakes. Why did you decide to punish your child? Think about whether you do it out of malice, of resentment? From their feelings helplessness? Then stop, calm down and try to rethink your reaction. Ask yourself: ‘So, what I really want to teach your child right now?

May 04 2016

Turning Development

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He dictates everything around norms and rules of conduct: what it feed, what to wear, whom to leave her room, and who can not do that one family member, and that the others. If a family has more children, tyranny begins to take features of acute jealousy. From the standpoint of three little kids, his brothers and sisters have no family no rights. The reverse side of the crisis outlined above features of the crisis of three years could plunge into confusion many happy parents infants or yearlings. But everyone, of course, is not so bad. Faced with similar symptoms, you should keep firmly in mind that the external negative symptoms – this is only the reverse side of positive personality change, main components and the basic meaning of any critical age. In each period of development, the child has a very specific, acceptable only for this age group needs, means, methods, and interaction with the world self-awareness. After serving his sentence, they must be replaced by a new – completely different, however, only possible in the changed situation.

The emergence of a new necessarily mean the withering away of the old, the rejection of already developed behaviors, interactions with the environment. And in times of crisis, as never again, is a great constructive work of development, the sharp, significant shifts and changes in the child’s personality. Unfortunately, for many parents ‘goodness’ of the child often depends on the degree of obedience. In times of crisis to hope it is not necessary. After going on inside the child changes, the turning point of his mental development can not pass unnoticed, not showing himself in the behavior and relationships with others.